39 thoughts on “You can’t medicate away the pain of a narcissistic relationship”

  1. Nope but you can pray it away! Praise God t thank you Father for everything. My blessings and my lessons. Please forgive me for all my sins. I love you thank you in Yeshuas name I pray and I pray everyone in the comments is blessed with God's grace today

  2. Dear Doctor, you have given tips to deal with narcissistic children. Can you please tell how to prevent it 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼 my kids r aged 6,8 and 10.

  3. It’s definitely a journey of emotional trauma processing- something that medicine can’t do. I hope everyone finds healing in some way. It’s the hardest thing I’ve been through in my life and I’m still struggling 1.5 years after the discard, but I’m doing better and I’m going to therapy and maintaining no contact as difficult it is that my ex is goes to the same school campus as I do.

  4. I told my husband I have to medicate in order to be around you. This is before I learned he was a NARC…. he was so offended by this… lol.

  5. 2:38 and then one may believe that she has bpd. The simplest way to understand the real ‘you’ is compare your life/behaviour before getting into this relationship with that of the time when you are in the relationship. This comparison helps you understand your relationship in a better way.

  6. ive been prescribed antidepressives antipsychotics which are now deemed unsafe or even used as rapedrugs and i was a teen but i only have a family of narcissists and i am the scapegoat
    i rebelled too late i think i got braindamage from those drops maybe it couldve been better if i took dodgy mdma at the raves

  7. I agree, Dr Ramani! Must admit this is one of your best videos! We need to face our demons; radical acceptance, realistic expectations, modified contact and dont take anything from the narc personally. For the believers, surrender the narc to God so it is no longer our battle. We reparent ourselves, that is the best we can do.

  8. I was put on an anti depressant by an unqualified therapist. They were samples. So much about this is wrong I know. What actually was happening was I was in a relationship with a narcissist. I had a narcissist problem not a psychological problem. I ended up leaving the narcissist and reporting this "therapist" to the state authorities. What ensued was a year long withdrawal from a medication I NEVER should have been on. The whole experience was horrible. Beware of who you see as a therapist, check their credentials PLEASE!!!

  9. This is 100% true and as you doctor Ramani are an trulky excellent help from the mental and health care side of this devastating pathology-we need to organize and form legal side to actually keep those toxic people in check. how is it ever gonna happen if they're never brought to accountability because of our non existent laws- because let's face it this is a very comfortable for our legislators to never touch those subjects, lawyers too dont want to touch it as thats how they protect abusers by gaslighting trickery

  10. Thank you for this one! The timing was perfect! It is a shift from looking at my spouse to looking at myself. I was feeling like I have finished my “slam him” phase (me being his victim) and have come to accept the reality that he is a narcissist. Now I need to decide what to do with this knowledge.

  11. Wish I had known this 20 years ago. It would have saved my life.

    In my case, it’s cigarettes and gluten foods, in light of celiac disease, that are my self-medications. I refused the psych meds.

  12. I am the daughter of a narcissistic mother. I’ve tried it all: meditation, relaxation, religions (a few), medication (what the doctor ordered) and alternative medicine. What worked for me was talk therapy. Where I come from, it’s called counselling but I imagine something much like what Dr Ramani speaks of. After much therapy, on and off over the years I finally came to the place where I can say, “I am enough”. I can’t speak highly enough of the power of having someone hear your story and validate your feelings and experiences. It was so powerful, I went on to study counselling myself.

  13. I was prescribed Fluoxitine after I broke up with an overt narcissist I was engaged to, at age 30. I've been on them, on and off (more on), for 30 years now!! But… I'm due to see my doctor and want to come off them, now I know I was raised by a covert narcissist mother. I hope I don't have bad withdrawal, though I realise I will have to do it very gradually. I know I will use food, to sooth, instead, so have joined a slimming class to keep motivated. Thanks Dr Ramani, don't think I've seen this covered specifically before. Excellent advice. 🙏

  14. You’re absolutely right. I’ve been going to a therapist and have been prescribed several medications, our relationship was over 3 yrs ago. The trauma is still here. I can be happy one minute then the next a song or thought of the narcissist can trigger so many emotions as you’ve mentioned. Self doubt, sadness, over eating, anxiety, resentment. These appointments are expensive as well as the prescriptions. Prayer and meditation is constant in my dad to day routine. We have a 1 yr old son together, but I’ve had to remove us from the narcissist life completely. People can say what they want (I’m bitter or it’s wrong to keep a child away from a parent), but only certain people can understand. His family completely gets it. The narcissist and his girlfriend causes drama and confusion to myself and his family. They don’t want her around either. It’s like he’s met hisself in her, they are very arrogant and egotistical.

  15. A wonderful topic. I really think more therapists out there need to be educated about narcissistic abuse. My therapist gaslighted my mother saying that it was normal and it happens in every house. I still struggle with experiencing numbness even though I don’t live with the narcissist anymore except when I visit my family.

  16. How can you tell us we have to walk away lol I know our Ego will not accept you can't win, I have 2 narcissist broth and his daughter, ruin Xmas every year, rude cut me off say sly things condescending thing, but my mum required us all there, so now Xman is staying in the shadows and listen to crap they know little about, while taking insult, but this is in the name of mum being somewhat happy yet gripping her teeth also.But after all that your so right walking away is the only peace of mind I can get, it puts my mum in a bad place though.2 years she has wondered if I will turn up for Xmass

  17. Dr. Ramani I am so glad you made this video. I have always been perplexed by the medication route with any medical condition. But when it comes to mental health, I think prescribing pills instead of getting to the root cause is not the answer. You have validated what I have said all of my life…medicine is a bandaid not a cure. Mental health issues especially can be tricky and as you stated, if not holistically done, the problem still exist! Thank you.

  18. I wholly agree medicine has it's place and time when the need proves it. Work is that which removes the symptom by fixing the cause, all other approaches are magic and placebo (magic by another name). This is the reasoning behind my ongoing efforts to learn (from wise/correct/authority sources), change my thinking, change my reality (physical place) and mature.

  19. I found out later in life that I have ADD ,and the med’shelped me Identify that I was in a toxic relationship, and I am so glad to be able to recognize bad habits when I see them and avoid them (I also had developed an dependent personality) but with the help from the Med’s I no longer “need “outside validation( this,I believe is positive). Thanks, Dr R.


  21. Thank you so much. I found myself self medicating with alcohol to numb myself. I don’t drink so I throw up and pass out hoping the feelings of discussed go away.
    Im hiding my hurt and disappointment for falling in love with a Covert Narc. I’m educating myself and the more I read your books the more my mouth hits the floor. My eyes are wide open now.
    He has been trying to reach out , he wants to know how I’m doing. I’m not replying, I’m standing my grounds to ignore him. I’m praying he has found someone else.
    My gf said he will never go away even when he’s with someone else.
    I am gaining more control of myself and it’s a slow process.
    I’m so grateful to have you here. Thank you for all your support and helping us all see the world better.

  22. Thank you. I self medicated against narcissistic abuse for over 20 years. My dear friend still does it, and when I suggest that there's a better way, he responds by saying, "it's ok. I can suffer through anything."
    Meanwhile, he's killing his liver.
    Thanks for raising awareness. 💜

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